Resources For Sex & Chronic Pain
A friend of mine recently asked me if I had any resources for chronic pain and sexuality. I knew of a few off the top of my head, but I started looking around, and querying in a few of the sex educator groups I’m in, and on Twitter, and compiled this list.
Thanks to everyone who weighed in and made suggestions!
What else do you all recommend? Please leave them in the comments.
Spoon Theory
Y’all probably know about the spoon theory — it is very widely popular in many circles, not only when talking about ability, written by Christine Miserandino. If you don’t, highly recommend you familiarize yourself with it — here’s the sweet article that started it all, over on ButYouDontLookSick.com.
Websites
- Chronic Sex — & their Podcast
- KinkAcademy.com — Shanna Katz & Wintersong Tashlin have series on sex & disability
- Sexability.com — Rafe Biggs
- Disability After Dark — Andrew Gurza
- SexAbled — Robin Wilson-Beattie
- ChronicSexChat
- SexForSpoonies
- SexAbled — Robin Wilson-Beattie
- AndrewGurza1
- Corey Alexander
Articles
- Kink & Chronic Pain
- What having sex with a chronic illness is like
- Chronic illness archive on Hedonish
- Masturbation challenge with lupus
- Sex & Accessibility 101: How to Have Super Hot Sex with or as a Disabled Person
- Sex Positions for Limited Mobility
- Harnessing my Sexuality as a Queer Cripple
- Flogging Ended my Year-Long Fibro Flare
- Sex & Fibromyalgia Part 1 — of 3 parts
Books
- A Quick & Easy Guide to Sex & Disability — forthcoming may 2020
Ultimate Guide to Sex & Disability - Partners in Passion — short section starts p374, but there are resources throughout the book
- The Monster Under the Bed: Sex, Depression, & the Conversations We Aren’t Having — JoEllen Notte’s new book, forthcoming March 2020
- Am I Ugly? — from the author: “First third talks about chronic illness, and the last third talks about sex in relation to surgery scars.”
D/s Books
- Broken Toys: Submissives With Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction
- Mastering Mind: Dominants With Mental Illness and Neurological Dysfunction
- Hell on Wheels: Disabled Dominants
- Kneeling in Spirit: Disabled Submissives
Conference
- Sex & Disability conference — happened in 2017 but there are listings for presenters and resources here
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What else do you all recommend? Please leave them in the comments.
Originally published at http://www.sugarbutch.net on January 20, 2020.
