Mar 25, 2021What I Mean When I Say “Trans Rights Are Human Rights,” and Other Things About Gender You Should Know By NowTrans rights are human rights. Trans rights are human rights. Trans rights are human rights. And what I mean when I say that is: the sexism, homophobia, transphobia, femmephobia, and other discriminations that are oppressing trans and nonbinary people are also oppressing cis people. The gender policing that happens for…Transgender3 min readTransgender3 min read
Aug 4, 2020Call For Submissions: Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 6 (2022), due October 31, 2020Editor: Sinclair Sexsmith Publisher: Cleis Press Deadline: October 31, 2020 (earlier encouraged) Payment: $50 and 1 copy of the book within 90 days of publication Rights: non-exclusive right to publish the story in this anthology in print, ebook and audiobook form. Authors will retain copyright to their stories. Sinclair Sexsmith is editing the next volume of Best Lesbian Erotica, and is looking for your best sexy stories about queer women.Call For Submissions2 min readCall For Submissions2 min read
Jan 20, 2020Resources For Sex & Chronic PainA friend of mine recently asked me if I had any resources for chronic pain and sexuality. …Chronic Pain2 min readChronic Pain2 min read
Nov 27, 2019No, You Don’t “Get” Racism Because You Are Oppressed, TooGender discrimination and racial discrimination are not the same thing. Some white folks say, “I understand racism — I’m [other marginalized identity], I’m oppressed, too.” Or, “I have experienced intense discrimination for being trans, I can imagine what it’s like to be black.” But here’s the thing: you don’t. Racial…Racism2 min readRacism2 min read
Oct 31, 2019Five Essential Apps for Sex BloggersOver the 13 and a half years of blogging about sex (that’s right — since April 2006!), many folks ask me about the tools that I use. …Blogging4 min readBlogging4 min read
May 16, 2019The Singular “They” Is Grammatically Correct, DammitI just read your identity pronoun piece on Medium and I would like to converse with you about a few questions I have. My child is currently identifying as non-binary. My only issue is from a grammar stand point. I struggle with referring to an individual in a plural way…LGBTQ5 min readLGBTQ5 min read
Apr 20, 2019Dear (Cis) People Who Put Your Pronouns On Your “Hello My Name Is” Name TagsDear cis people who put your pronouns on your “hello my name is” name tags: Thank you. When you do that, I feel more comfortable putting my pronouns — they/them. I feel more comfortable being visibly out as nonbinary. I feel more comfortable asking people to use the pronouns that…LGBTQ4 min readLGBTQ4 min read
May 8, 2018We need the new butch.I adore the butch/femme culture. As someone who highly identifies as a femme-oriented butch who is currently dating a trans boy, I adore it even more. …Transgender4 min readTransgender4 min read
Jul 2, 2014To All the Tops Who Are Afraid to Make a MoveHow to get the green light from a possible sexytimes friend and not be an asshole — art by rife, www.rowdyferret.com One of my biggest challenges as a top—and as a feminist dominant, and as someone who is well versed in and vehemently requires agency and consent in my sexytime play—is making assertions of what I want. This is especially hard if I’m meeting or playing with…Strap On7 min readStrap On7 min read
